I just finished watching Pai –Whale Rider in English— and I highly recommend it!! It revolves around an ancient Maori legend whose ancestor rode on the back of a whale from Havaiki to New Zealand. Set in modern day, the eldest/first-born male of the direct descendant is expected to lead the people. Unfortunately, the chief’s eldest son leaves New Zealand after his wife dies in childbirth and refuses to assume the responsibility of becoming the next chief. He also loses one of their twins, a son, leaving him with a daughter, “Pai,” who is raised by his parents. Although she is ten or twelve-years-old, Pai struggles to fulfill the role her father left, leading to not only a generational conflict, but also to differences in tradition between her and her grandfather.
The movie was filmed where the Maori live. (FYI: The area is actually known for its beached whale occurrences.) While the director and various actors and actresses discussed filming the movie, they touched on the respect they gave to the community and the respect they received. This section of the movie resonated with my goal of studying abroad— to learn and respect other another culture by incorporating it into my life. It’s about living the life of another even when my culture is pitted against the other.
Despite the emotional roller coaster of adjusting, I’m understanding the difficulties associated with learning how to respect and understand other cultures. Everyone always says that study abroad “broadens your horizons.” It’s true that it does, but you don’t fully realize just how much until you’re in it. It depends on the individual and his or her openness of course, and because I’m willing to embrace another culture, I’ve been hit full-force with unexpected highs and low, and my comfort zone has been pushed daily. You want to hang on to your former way of life, but if you do, you’re unhappy. Many frustrations arise because you don’t want to accept the way of life that surrounds you.
For once, I’m the minority. Although I traveled to Japan, I did so by myself and interpreted the culture in the way that I, an American, understood it, and not necessarily how Japanese individuals do. I only had what I knew, which was minimal or learned from my guidebook, but studying and living in a foreign country throws you off track. It’s not merely a vacation. It’s a life you settle into and forced to live if you want to be happy, and living with a host definitely provides you with endless opportunities to learn how. I’ve heard stories of French families or couples coming to Tahiti because of a spouse’s work. If the other spouse yearns for home and clings to their former life, depression oftentimes occurs. If they learn how to incorporate the island way of life and balance the Tahitian and French lifestyle, they are quite happier.
The same has been true for me. If I let go of my American mentality and accept the Tahitian mindset, I’m less frustrated. Though I may not always be happy, I understand and acknowledge that I must take myself out of one culture and into another if I want to accomplish my goals, let alone be happy here. According to one of our books focused on maximizing study abroad, the individual hits rock bottom around week five. Well, I’ve hit both week five and rock bottom, and there’s nowhere to go but up from here!
Despite the “paradise” everyone thinks Tahiti is, it has its own issues and tensions to resolve. There is an extreme gap between the rich and poor. The country is faced with political instability, resulting in the lack of decisions within the assembly. Unclaimed dogs run free around the island, which upsets me extremely, and graffiti is common. Broader concepts, such as time, structure and interactions are also different, which I will continue blogging about in latter posts, so keep checking back to learn more!